remphish1 Posted February 4, 2009 Share Posted February 4, 2009 maybe it's just me, but i'd probably try to schedule my honeymoon around a wilco tour. what could be better than sharing the band you love with the person you love. and if this kind of scenario came up with my significant other and it was a band i wasn't as keen on, i'd still go because it is something he loves and it just seems like the right thing to do. no strings attached. then again, i go to a concert at least once a month (upwards of 3x a month) and music is an integral part of my life. whoever marries me will need to be very keen and understanding to that. and double-then again i met the guy i'm madly in love with at a wilco concert... I attend between 50-80 shows a year...my wife maybe 5 a year. I figured it would be beneficially to find someone who goes to as many shows as I do but thats not how it worked out. We have an understanding and we make it work out I couldn't be happier! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
KansasAl Posted February 4, 2009 Share Posted February 4, 2009 I say let her read this thread and she what she thinks then. She'll see how respectful you are being of her needs and wants.This actually may be the best advice (if you can deal with the whole worlds colliding thing). Look Wilco aint going anywhere. They are going to be a part of your life for what is likely a very long time. You have to do this. And you have to be upfront honest. A key to making a relationship work is asking for what you want and not being afraid to do so. You want to go to this show. It just makes sense you tell her that. Betcha she does it just to make you happy and guess what-probably has a great time too. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
BreezyGrass Posted February 4, 2009 Share Posted February 4, 2009 As a newly married man - July '08 - I suggest as others have to discuss it with her. I don't see this as being a major issue. All vacations are awesome and honeymoons are suped up vacations to the max (we spent a week in Pureto Vallarta and will be going to Kuaii, Hawaii next week). However, at the end of every vacation big or small there is, I feel, that sense of wanting a return to normalcy. What better way to have a little bit of America in a foreign land than going to see Wilco? I also agree to make it the end of a wonderful day filled with all sorts of pregame activities - sightseeing, shopping, napping, good eats & drinks, and go see the show. Maybe something planned for afterward to make a full circle to do? Take lots of pics and make it as personal as possible. She'll enjoy the effort you go through and appreciate it. Let us know how it goes. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
replacements75 Posted February 5, 2009 Author Share Posted February 5, 2009 Well I had brought it up briefly before and she seemed more amused by the idea than anything else which was not a bad sign. She humors my slight obsession and she indulges me in my desire to see live shows for the most part. a lot of times she will come with me and my friends depending on the band. Wilco is not one of her favorites not that she dislikes them its just that of all the music I impose on her its not something she would listen to on her own. So last night we were discussing possible itineraries for the trip and I brought up the idea a little more seriously than I had before and while she is open to it, it seems that if it's going to be any kind of pressure to make it to town to see the show then it's out. So if we have to go out of our way to be in Barcelona when they are there then she will find it a little too stressful. Of course I have been the one that has been looking up and trying to set up where we will be and when so I thought tat it would be easy enough to make this the last night where we have to get back to Barcelona for our flight out anyway. But logistics may get in the way. Honestly though she is so stressed with work at this time that it is hard for her to think about anything else so I just let it drop. We are going to actually book everything next week so I won't bring it up again. If she wants to do it then she'll mention it. Anyway I scored two tickets to see Jeff in Beacon so I'll be satisfied with that. Of course I would do both but I rather have a relaxed stress free time with as little friction as possible. And if we don't see them, we don't thats fine with me. It's all about compromise right. I know we'll have a great time in Spain either way. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mfwahl Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 Sounds like you got it figured out. Either way you'll have a great time. Barcelona is probably my favorite city I've ever been to. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
replacements75 Posted February 6, 2009 Author Share Posted February 6, 2009 Sounds like you got it figured out. Either way you'll have a great time. Barcelona is probably my favorite city I've ever been to. Really! Any good suggestions? PM if you have anything you might think is good. If you don't mind. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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