Dreamin'

When I was practicing visualizations in my prenatal class to prepare for childbirth, the Fillmore was my "happy place." True story. I think you were having a really good time.

My first Fillmore show! I think that was the night I kept bumping my head on the monitor. Ouch, d'oh! And some of us suffered the indignity of pooping pigeons to get that close to the stage. Good times.

Some of the most memorable Wilco shows I've seen have been at the Fillmore.

If this is true, they will be missed. As I recall, the Vancouver, Eugene, Arcata, and SF audiences were pretty well behaved on that solo tour, but I understand how a couple of bad nights might colour the whole experience. (Also, it's probably not a good idea to tour the Pacific Northwest during the rainy season.) I have a feeling that he won't be able to resist the siren song of the SF Amoeba, City Lights, and Powell's for long. At least Glenn and Nels still love us.

If you're ever in Vancouver, you've got to visit La Casa Gelato. (It's like the Hot Doug's of ice cream.) I wouldn't be surprised if they have a mac 'n cheese flavour.

Death by Mac 'n Cheese!

Wow, that sounds amazing! Unfortunately, we don't get all the B&J flavours up here. My favourite was Coffee Toffee, but I can't find it in the stores anymore.

Some more Googling yielded this little gem:

I didn't know about that. Horrible!

I know. I just wanted to rant some more. Both can be deadly in the wrong hands. I was thinking about that episode of the The Newsroom where they want to show a suicide (live) on the news to boost ratings, and when the depressed guy changes his mind, the executive producer says, "He's got to kill himself, or I'll have egg on my face!" I miss that series. It was kind of like The Office, but much much darker.

You're probably right. But CBC restored my faith in the media for one brief moment:

It was a rallying cry for other so-called "martyrs" to join them. Experts alert for Va. Tech copycats

NBC's decision to broadcast the killer's PR video was beyond unethical - IMO, it was criminal. I wish the editors who took the bait and chose to disseminate his call to arms could be charged with reckless endangerment. I'm obviously no legal expert, but there is probably enough evidence of the contagion or "copycat" effect to present a strong argument. Cho obviously chose NBC because he knew they lacked integrity. (Forgive my rant, but I'm still really upset about this.)

Of course, Nugent is ignoring the fact that guns are designed to kill people very efficiently. Thirty-three families would not be grieving today if Cho had been armed with kitchen utensils.

I think I spot the bbop!

As the existentialists say, freedom comes with responsibility (for the choices you make).

Well, I guess now we know.

Virginia police "disappointed" that killer's video broadcast I love the CBC:

I think most of us probably could, at some point in our lives. I find that it's really easy for me to take care of other people, but not so easy for me to take care of myself. It's a clich

Exactly. Suicide contagion has been in the back of my mind all along and that's probably why I've felt such a strong need to talk about the warning signs, etc. There are ethical ways to report about suicide and then there are umm, less ethical ways... I was also very disappointed to see the names and occupations of his family members published. Ugh.

Every situation is unique, so I don't think there is a single answer to your question. Loved ones face very painful/impossible decisions, and like you, they act with much love and compassion (often with little support), according to the best information that they have at the time. Sometimes, when a person is believed to be a danger to themself or others, they can be hospitalized for a short period of time until they are stable enough for outpatient treatment or a referral to a mental health professional in the community. I don't know how difficult it is to find a good psychiatrist or therap

I'm sorry, M Chris. Sometimes you can do everything right and there is still a tragic ending. Even so, you demonstrated a lot of love in the process and those actions speak louder than any words.

Violent themes in writing, etc. don't always indicate that the author intends to commit an act of violence, BUT it is one of the major warning signs and should be taken seriously. By asking a few questions, it's usually pretty easy to tell if the person is a budding Tarantino or if something else is going on. And of course, it's not one isolated incident, but a pattern of behaviour that people should watch for. If someone talks about suicide and I'm pretty sure they're just joking, I still ask questions. The person may laugh at me or think I'm overreacting, but if they are thinking about i

You're being smart, not paranoid. If you've already told your RA about this and no one took action, it's time to take it higher up the chain of command. There is no way that a college will tolerate behaviour (illegal or otherwise) that could endanger other students. Period. On an average day, college administrators are jumpy about liability issues. The day after VA Tech, they should be all ears. Good luck, bobbob! Edit: And if you don't feel safe, chances are the other students living in the dorm (?) may not be safe either. Please tell someone... and if that person does nothing, pleas

Anger and blame are often part of the grieving process after a tragedy, and when the media fans the flames, it certainly doesn't help people heal. I truly believe that law enforcement and campus security, administrators, etc. did their best with the information and resources that they had at the time. It must hurt like hell to have something like this happen at your school, and I'm sure that many people at VA Tech are heartbroken by the difficult choices (mistakes?) they made that day. Unfortunately, when people finally move past pointing fingers to taking responsibility and trying to lea