Moe_Syzlak Posted August 15, 2008 Share Posted August 15, 2008 Does anyone know what I should do here? I am planning to have my brothers serve as groomsmen. One of my brothers passed away over 15 years ago and I would still like to honor him as a groomsman. I plan to list him in the program and on our wedding web site. What is the most appropriate way to do so? One of these: [brother's Name} (Deceased) Groomsmen Groom's brother or [brother's Name} (In Memory) Groomsmen Groom's brother Or something else entirely? Also, my fianc Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Party @ the Moontower Posted August 15, 2008 Share Posted August 15, 2008 Does anyone know what I should do here? I am planning to have my brothers serve as groomsmen. One of my brothers passed away over 15 years ago and I would still like to honor him as a groomsman. I plan to list him in the program and on our wedding web site. What is the most appropriate way to do so? One of these: [brother's Name} (Deceased) Groomsmen Groom's brother or [brother's Name} (In Memory) Groomsmen Groom's brother Or something else entirely? Also, my fianc Quote Link to post Share on other sites
owl Posted August 15, 2008 Share Posted August 15, 2008 [brother's Name} (In Memory) Groomsmen Groom's brother Seconded. Sorry to hear that you lost your brother. My brothers are going to be my groomsmen too, and I get a little choked up just thinking it. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
cryptique Posted August 16, 2008 Share Posted August 16, 2008 I like the "in memory" idea. The word "deceased" can come off as cold and disconnected, but "in memory" communicates the love you have for him. I think it's really cool that you're including him. Hope your wedding is fantastic. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
VenusStopsTrain2 Posted August 16, 2008 Share Posted August 16, 2008 You can also have flowers or a special candle on the altar or table or whatever on the main area behind you in the ceremony and have a mention of it in the programme as well stating the flowers are in memory of your brother. I've seen lots of people do that. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
So Long Posted August 16, 2008 Share Posted August 16, 2008 Also, don't blurt out "he's got the cock ring" when rings are being exchanged...I was at a wedding yesterday when that happened. It was awful Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mountain bed Posted August 16, 2008 Share Posted August 16, 2008 Moe, perhaps a small ribbon on the other groomsmen's boutonniers as a way of honoring your brother's memory as well? Just a thought. All the best to you man. Have a great day, and don't forget some Jerry and/or Trey music at the reception! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Moe_Syzlak Posted August 16, 2008 Author Share Posted August 16, 2008 Thanks everyone. I think I'm going with "In Memoriam." What about the second question? That one seems like there should be common etiquette. Is it Bride's bother-in-law or Future brother-in-law? And, mountain bed, I've got Seis de Mayo, that new orchestral Dead album and some orchestral Zappa (in addition to more traditional jazz and classical music) that will be played as dinner music. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
myboyblue Posted August 16, 2008 Share Posted August 16, 2008 Thanks everyone. I think I'm going with "In Memoriam." What about the second question? That one seems like there should be common etiquette. Is it Bride's bother-in-law or Future brother-in-law? And, mountain bed, I've got Seis de Mayo, that new orchestral Dead album and some orchestral Zappa (in addition to more traditional jazz and classical music) that will be played as dinner music. I'm almost positive that Bride's brother-in-law is correct. I also like MB idea of the ribbon in honor. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
juicybrucy Posted August 16, 2008 Share Posted August 16, 2008 I go for the in memory of as well. Anything else would seem too funereal and take away from the wedding ceremony. Perhaps a short toast for your bro at the reception would be touching. As for the program, do you really need to list anything but your brother-in-laws name? Titles are over-rated. Oh, and best wishes! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
yermom Posted August 16, 2008 Share Posted August 16, 2008 Definitely the "In Memory" (or Memoriam) version. I think "In Spirit" sounds kind of nice too. I also think the ribbon for the other groomsmen is a great idea. Best of luck with your entire wedding...sounds like wedding planning is complicated stuff. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
owl Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 What about the second question? That one seems like there should be common etiquette. Is it Bride's bother-in-law or Future brother-in-law? If you don't want to put "Friend" (or whatever you'd put for a friend), I guess put "Bride's bother-in-law." Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lammycat Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 Or "Relative of the Bride." Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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