sweetheart-mine

in the store they'll tell you twenty years if you regularly flip it and turn it upside down and inside out, but don't believe it. there is no average life cycle. you buy a new bed when you get sick of "fluffing up" the futon; when your spouse suddenly insists on a firmer mattress; when you get sick of spouse and two cats giving you claustrophobia all night long and decide to upsize; when you tear a ligament or rupture a disc and everything your body always wanted changes overnight; when you just need a switch for no known reason. each of these things, and possibly all of them, happen in

do you really want to talk about the difference?

wait a minute. i should get at least half of it. if i hadn't bugged him you'd never have seen it.

facial hair does it for me in most cases. every few years when my husband shaves his off, i don't know who he is for three weeks.

he's unbelievable. how often does he hit the ball where a defense player is? and his scrambling at second . . . he's like a cat on a mouse.

that rodent is adorable.

oh you meant it!!! tomorrow i'm in the wilds of limington, back home monday. welcome!

hey viatroy, where have you been today! i do know of quite a few men who take way more hands-on child-rearing responsibility than any in, say, my parents' generation. i've been downright impressed, truthfully. one of my brothers is a real hero on this front. but . . . no government, for sure! do people really still protest outside planned-parenthood facilities? that strikes me as a particularly backward type of protest, you know? they should be driving people to planned parenthood, not waiting outside to keep them out -- it would cut down on the time they waste protesting at clin

bottom-line: yes, that's right. life isn't fair. why aren't you watching the game.

now i have a ballgame to watch. it starts in two minutes.

thank you very much -- it's multi-faceted gorgeous! i thought it would be ratty by now, but obviously you've taken care of it. thanks for remembering.

yah, i know, not the most fun! but bless your thinking heart!

well, i wouldn't recommend that, because i've had quite a few decades to think about this and have never changed my mind about it. really, don't hold your breath. you and i will never agree, and neither will the rest of our fast-growing population. that is exactly why this very personal choice should be up to the individual and not legislated by any level or branch of government, period. thank you, and goodnight.

i hear you, but it's mccain's fault for picking an anti-abortionist female as his running mate. don't worry, it'll die down soon. i for one have only about 6 things to say about it, and they seem to be over with.

then get the scientists working to make males capable of conceiving, and carrying to term a pregnancy. (you forgot that little difference, i think.) oh, and also set the pregnant males up financially and in myriad other supportive ways in case they're stuck with a child they can't support if the woman runs off. "birth control for a woman is also a choice." yes, although there's a big difference: every single birth control method for a woman is invasive, some more seriously than others. all a man has to do is pop on a condom.

uh, i made no such ridiculous claim. quite the opposite. read it again. whether a fetus is a baby and whether "killling" is the honest term is something you and i will never agree on. no, the father doesn't have this "right," because It's Not His Body that the "pro-lifers" want to control. "sorry." maybe you'll get that someday, i don't know.

are those things good? like if your elbow digs into it, do you have a memorialized elbow hole for the rest of the night or week?

yes, and i would add that the decision to take part in the act that leads to insemination is hardly the decision of one person in most cases. why is kwall taking into account only the woman's responsibility? the guy takes part in the decision and in the act. if he isn't a part of the consequences, there's a serious imbalance there that needs righting. so far there's only one way to right it -- the woman has the choice.

that's a very good point. i do know a very few people who can claim the "pro-life" label with no hypocrisy, but suspect most would have a serious problem if all of their beliefs about life/killing were scrutinized closely. the majority of "pro-lifers" sound only like anti-abortionists to me, rabid about saving the fetus they'll have nothing to do with and just as rabid about going to war and killing untold numbers of people for very questionable reasons and in very objectionable ways if the prez says to (as you say, just one example).

fascinating. and here i'd thought unknown bloggers just like hearing themselves talk -- but no, they get to pick v.p. candidates! truly amazing, as if yesterday wasn't enough of a shock. you know, there are a lot of things i don't care for about john mccain, but i never thought he was stupid. he is now passing my stupidity test. some of the comments on that guy's blog are pretty interesting. any angry hillary clinton supporter who votes for this ticket must not have the slightest clue what hillary clinton is about. i think to support clinton and then turn around due to sour grap

if your old box spring is still in good shape and the springs aren't weak at the sides/edges (that's where they get the most wear), there's no reason you can't use it with a new mattress.

i'm not worried that september will be disastrous, but i AM worried that you might go to hell for what you said.

i'm familiar with many addictions -- some not even diagnosed yet! most of them are better known as "life." "addiction" is one of those words that may have crossed the line into overuse. some addictions are all too real and do require treatment, but where does addiction end and responsibility begin? like with this guy.

oh, there's still plenty of crap out there for women, no question about it. i got tired of it really fast, which is why most of my work life has been spent self-employed. i don't really see clinton as torn down. no doubt she faced huge challenges and some prejudices (as do lots of people and for various reasons). but i think by the end of her campaign, she had won over many voters who wouldn't have given her the time of day a year or two ago. the reaction to palin is based on so many things, a good number of them valid, including initial outright shock. i wouldn't put treatment of