Jaymie Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 Catharsis is good I think, if done in a way thats not indulgent or silly, but progressive and helpful. I'm going through a break-up now, and things are just starting to get real turbulent.On a bright note I managed to compose one of my best mixes in recent memory to comeserate our disunion... 1.Beck-It's All In Your Mind2.Yo La Tengo-Tears Are In Your Eyes3.The Clientele-Monday's Rain4.Flaming Lips-Ego Tripping At The Gates Of Hell5.Wilco-HummingBird6.Mercury Rev-Moving On7.Amiee Mann-Wise Up8.Badly Drawn Boy-The Shinning 9.Broken Social Scene-Lover's Spit10.Bob Dylan-Most Of The Time ...I was once a fluent praticioner of linear continuity but I mislaid it somewhere and now...Well, maybe I'm getting my mix talent back.ANYWAY are there any shots from the gallery?? any song sugestions??Thanks for your help. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Dude Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 "Give me my money back,Give me my money back,You bitch.I want my money back.And don't forgetTo give me back my black T-shirt." - Ben Folds Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Scalzunfield Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 "Give me my money back,Give me my money back,You bitch.I want my money back.And don't forgetTo give me back my black T-shirt." - Ben Folds Great song--great lyrics. And I totally empathize with you Jaymie. I'm 22 and had been with my high school sweetheart throughout college despite a semi-long-distance (180 miles apart) relationship. Throughout our 4 years in college, I made that nearly 400-mile trek every other weekend in order to be with her. She didn't have a car at school and had no means of seeing me if I didn't drive there. Two days before we were to graduate, she told me she didn't think she was ready to move in together or get engaged...this after she had been the one obsessing over it for three years. I had made all the necessary arrangements (living quarters, etc.) and was all ready and totally prepared (a new one for me ) when she dropped this bomb on me. Needless to say, graduation was miserable and the past 4 months haven't been a breeze either. Now, something I should mention here is: my ex- is Muslim (her parents are from Pakistan) and that was always a rough point in our relationship although she was always more than willing to leave them...or so she said. Anyways, even at 21 years old, they wouldn't condone her being out of the house after 9 p.m. and threatened to kick her out if she did it again (the day after we saw Wilco together). That's the kind of thing I dealt with and still stayed with her. In the end, I feel a bit used and very alone. Having been with her since I was 17, I'm 100% inexperienced at the dating thing (we were friends before we started dating so the transition was easy). I have followed through with the plans we had made and moved from the Northwest 'burbs of Chicago to a place in southeastern Indiana that is roughly 45 miles from Cincinnati, Ohio. Now I have no friends close and am working 50 hours a week, Wednesday through Sunday, leaving me no real good time to meet new people. The main song that got me through the break-up was Dylan's "Don't Think Twice, It's Alright." No song I found could encapsulate my feelings about her so entirely although, admittedly, my feelings have recently gone from sadness to complete hatred of her. I feel like I was giving 70% in comparison to her 30%. But that's another rant for another time. "It ain't no use to sit and wonder why, babeIt don't matter, anyhowAn' it ain't no use to sit and wonder why, babeIf you don't know by nowWhen your rooster crows at the break of dawnLook out your window and I'll be goneYou're the reason I'm trav'lin' onDon't think twice, it's all right It ain't no use in turnin' on your light, babeThat light I never knowedAn' it ain't no use in turnin' on your light, babeI'm on the dark side of the roadStill I wish there was somethin' you would do or sayTo try and make me change my mind and stayWe never did too much talkin' anywaySo don't think twice, it's all right It ain't no use in callin' out my name, galLike you never did beforeIt ain't no use in callin' out my name, galI can't hear you any moreI'm a-thinkin' and a-wond'rin' all the way down the roadI once loved a woman, a child I'm toldI give her my heart but she wanted my soulBut don't think twice, it's all right I'm walkin' down that long, lonesome road, babeWhere I'm bound, I can't tellBut goodbye's too good a word, galSo I'll just say fare thee wellI ain't sayin' you treated me unkindYou could have done better but I don't mindYou just kinda wasted my precious timeBut don't think twice, it's all right" Those ending lyrics summarize what I feel about the relationship. That song alone is my mix. Sorry for the lengthy tale. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
renic Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 various stages or moving pictures, silent films by great lakes swimmers all though, any of great lake swimmers will do. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
brianjeremy Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 I think Death Cab's Transatlanticism, The Postal Service's Give Up and The Wren's Meadowlands are the best break up albums in my collection. Having went through a nasty break up about a year ago (and possibly another one soon), those albums were great comfort during those hard times. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
deepseacatfish Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 The Wrens "Happy"Autumn Defense "Silence"Radiohead "How to Dissappear Completely" or "Bulletproof...I wish I was" Also, Jim O'Rourke is the king of nasty breakup lyrics...see particularly "Memory Lame" also "Answers to Your Questions" from the new Loose Fur would make a good addition Quote Link to post Share on other sites
brianjeremy Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 The Wrens "Happy"Awesome song. Seriously hits a nerve with me everytime I hear it. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
WaronWar Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 I actually just when through a breakup from a relationship that lasted a long time myself and I found that music help me out along with talking about it with my friends. I'm not a big fan of the Death Cab For Cutie bands and the rest of the emo crowd because there just whiners. Bob Dylan- Entrie "Blood On Tracks", "Don't Think Twice It's Alright, and "Girl From A North Country" Wilco- Hummingbird, I Am Trying To Break Your Heart Jeff Tweedy- Bob Dylan's 49th Beard Beck- Entire "Sea Change" album The Flaming Lips- The Gash Jim O'Rourke's stuff is also amazing a la "Insignafence" Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mountain bed Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 Jackson Browne's "Late for the Sky"...really a must hear if you haven't already Quote Link to post Share on other sites
awatt Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 Jackson Browne's "Late for the Sky"...really a must hear if you haven't already Brings tears to my eyes. Most of the Time by Dylan nails it though for good break-up music. Also, some Petty (Don't Come Around Here No More), and Quadrophenia is all-purpose for emotional turmoil. Sorry to hear the news. Good luck. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
rwrkb Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 i won't admit this kind of thing often, but i have a hard time listening to stevie wonder's "I Believe (When I Fall In Love It Will Be Forever)" because it was like my therapy when my high school "sweetheart" broke up with me.... also r.e.m.'s "the sidewinder sleeps tonite" Quote Link to post Share on other sites
cusacker Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 1.Beck-It's All In Your Mind2.Yo La Tengo-Tears Are In Your Eyes3.The Clientele-Monday's Rain4.Flaming Lips-Ego Tripping At The Gates Of Hell5.Wilco-HummingBird6.Mercury Rev-Moving On7.Amiee Mann-Wise Up8.Badly Drawn Boy-The Shinning 9.Broken Social Scene-Lover's Spit10.Bob Dylan-Most Of The Time Which version...with the guy or the girl singing lead vocals? The take with the female singing is infinately better. I think it may have been a b-side track. Other tunes that help me in a situation such as yours are: Ryan Adams - The ShadowlandsRadiohead - True Love Waits Bob Dylan - Not Dark YetJosh Ritter - One More Mouth & Baby Thats Not All Wilco - Misunderstood, Someone Else's Song & The Lonely 1 (Being There versions) hope it helps mate! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Doug Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 Anything by The Wedding Present would do the trick, especially the "Seamonsters" album. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
watch me fall Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 Two very relevant songs for me over the past few months: Misunderstood - "you hurt her but you don't know why, you love her but you don't know why" Melt Your Heart (Jenny Lewis) - And we've lost the people we could have loved, and you... What you know you have or what you think you aren't It's never perfect Are we killing time? Are we killing each other? When you're kissing someone who's too much like you It's like kissing on a mirror When you're sleeping with someone who doesn't get you You're gonna hate yourself in the morning Quote Link to post Share on other sites
muller Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 A personal favourite of mine. - Broken Heart - Spiritualized Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Eli Cash Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 (edited) There's a lot of great break-up/troubled love songs on Bruce Springsteen's "Tunnel of Love." Especially "Brilliant Disguise" and "One Step Up." FANTASTIC breakup songs. "It's the same thing night on nightWho's wrong baby who's rightAnother fight and I slam the door onAnother battle in our dirty little warWhen I look at myself I don't seeThe man I wanted to beSomewhere along the line I slipped off trackI'm caught movin' one step up and two steps back" Edited September 12, 2006 by Eli Cash Quote Link to post Share on other sites
benjamin Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 I listened to a lot of Travis during my one horrible breakup. 1. Why does it always rain on me?2. Writing to reach you3. damn... can't remember the name but the lyrics start "Everyday I wake up alone because, I'm not like all the other boys" That breakup was the best thing that ever happend to me. I spent my time being productive by picking up the guitar for the first time haven't stopped playing in 6 years Oh... and the song that got me out of my bad spot Eels - "P.S. You Rock My World" (off of electro-shock blues) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
viatroy Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 PJ's Black did me in as a lost-love song for many moons. Also, U2's Achtung Baby as a whole soundtracked a breakup for me. It is my fervent hope never to have "Dont Think Twice It's Alright" aimed my way. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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Pocahontas Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 Carole Kings-Tapestry Quote Link to post Share on other sites
airtaco Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 Well, I was about to post Frank's "In The Wee Small Hours" and U2's "Achtung Baby," but I guess you guys are always two steps ahead... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Atticus Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 just a few: "Sun Comes Up, It's Tuesday Morning" Cowboy Junkies (my favorite break-up song ever, lyrics below)"I Thought I Knew You" Matthew Sweet"Song For The Dumped" Ben Folds Five (already mentioned I think)"I Know It's Over" The Smiths"Waiting On A Friend" Rolling Stones"It's All Over Now, Baby Blue" the Van Morrison/Them version just kills me"Via Chicago" can't remember the band..."Fake Plastic Trees" Radiohead"Idiot Wind" Dylan"I Just Don Quote Link to post Share on other sites
TheMaker Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 Blood on the Tracks and Shoot Out the Lights (Richard and Linda Thompson) are generally hailed as the best breakup albums, and that sounds about right to me. And a big, big second to "Sun Comes Up, It's Tuesday Morning." My favourite song from my favourite CJ record. I've never understood why that album seems to get crapped on compared to some of their others. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
street spirit Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 Ryan Adams - Call Me On Your Way Back Home Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sir Stewart Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 There's a lot of great break-up/troubled love songs on Bruce Springsteen's "Tunnel of Love." Especially "Brilliant Disguise" and "One Step Up." FANTASTIC breakup songs. "It's the same thing night on nightWho's wrong baby who's rightAnother fight and I slam the door onAnother battle in our dirty little warWhen I look at myself I don't seeThe man I wanted to beSomewhere along the line I slipped off trackI'm caught movin' one step up and two steps back"Good call.Brilliant Disguise is one of my favorite songs. "God have mercy on the manWho doubts what he's sure of" Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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