Dean M Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 I am thinking about divorcing my wife. I was wondering if there are any peeps out there that have survived a divorce who have any words of advice. I know it is a heavy topic for this forum, but it is kind of related. Me and my wife are just moving in totally different directions. She doesn't like music at all. Especially not the kind of music that I am into. I want to be free to smoke weed and listen to music and go to concerts and shit like that. I have given all of that up because she is totally against it.After we were married she became a conservative born again christian. Any advice from people who have been through divorce is really welcomed. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lammycat Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 Dean M: Did you date your wife at all before marriage? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ih8music Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 I have never been through a divorce, but my wife and I have had our share of ups & downs. I would suggest you attempt marriage counseling before jumping into a divorce, though -- even though you guys seem to be headed in the opposite directions, it might help bring your paths into closer alignment. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lammycat Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 Divorcing my wife ended up being one of the best things I ever did, actually. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Jules Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 I know it is a heavy topic for this forum, but it is kind of related. Your marital problems are not related to an internet message board full of strangers. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lammycat Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 I bet Dean M. isn't even his real name. Sounds like an alias of sorts to me.... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
sonicshoulder Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 I am thinking about divorcing my wife. I was wondering if there are any peeps out there that have survived a divorce who have any words of advice. I know it is a heavy topic for this forum, but it is kind of related. Me and my wife are just moving in totally different directions. She doesn't like music at all. Especially not the kind of music that I am into. I want to be free to smoke weed and listen to music and go to concerts and shit like that. I have given all of that up because she is totally against it.After we were married she became a conservative born again christian. Any advice from people who have been through divorce is really welcomed.If you don't have any kids to protect I would start being free and smokin weed(if you want) and listening to music and going to concerts and if she can't let you live how you want to live then hell with her its your life. If you do have kids its not just your life and you need to do whats best for them. If you follow this advice I will need you to mail me a check for $90 though whether it works or not. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
fickerson Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 I've never been divorced, but I have dated enough douchey guys to know you'd probably be doing her a huge favor. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Dean M Posted November 3, 2011 Author Share Posted November 3, 2011 I've never been divorced, but I have dated enough douchey guys to know you'd probably be doing her a huge favor. I think you are probably right about that one. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
JethroNC Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 I want to be free to smoke weed and listen to music and go to concerts and shit like that. If those are the first three reasons that come to mind, then the first thing you need to do is grow up.Like Ficky McFickerson said, do your soon-to-be-ex-wife a favor and let her get on with her life. Now that that's out of the way, how about posting a picture of her boobs? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Hollinger. Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 I am thinking about divorcing my wife. I was wondering if there are any peeps out there that have survived a divorce who have any words of advice. I know it is a heavy topic for this forum, but it is kind of related. Me and my wife are just moving in totally different directions. She doesn't like music at all. Especially not the kind of music that I am into. I want to be free to smoke weed and listen to music and go to concerts and shit like that. I have given all of that up because she is totally against it.After we were married she became a conservative born again christian. Any advice from people who have been through divorce is really welcomed. You sound like a fucking tool, dude/bro. Let her find someone worth being married to. Pack your bong and go occupy Wall Street. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
IRememberDBoon Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 God people are such condescending pricks on this board. It really is lame. Sad I suppose. I think people putting foots down about someone smoking pot (i dont right now) is ridiculous. Also he said she became a born again christian (something he obviously is not) and he loves music and wants to go to concerts. What the HELL is wrong with him having the priorities of freedom to express himself and freedom to not deal with an exact opposite theologian? HE would be doing HER a favor?? hows that?? You sound like a fucking tool, dude/bro. Let her find someone worth being married to. Pack your bong and go occupy Wall Street. Oh wow another winner at life!! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
smells like flowers Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 After we were married she became a conservative born again christian.There are always two sides to every story, but that does change everything. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Hollinger. Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 Because there's a fucking difference between "My wife's values changed after we married" and "I want to get high and listen to music." And isn't a whole lot different from "My wife doesn't agree with me getting high." Quote Link to post Share on other sites
-seven Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 The born again Christian / conservative thing is definitely a deal breaker, especially if this is not what/who you married. Just my opinion. I'm happily married for 14 years but if I was in your shoes, I'd be freaked out. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
caliber66 Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 I think you are probably right about that one.Of course she's right about it. She dates TONS of douchey guys. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Hollinger. Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 Jesus fuck, she was hanging out with ME on Saturday. That should tip you off. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
fickerson Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 So, so true. Canadians, even! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Jules Posted November 4, 2011 Share Posted November 4, 2011 How long have you been married? How long did you date before marriage? Was she ok with your pot smoking before? How often do you smoke? How's the sex? Is she hot? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
uncool2pillow Posted November 4, 2011 Share Posted November 4, 2011 Of course she's right about it. She dates TONS of douchey guys. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ghost of Electricity Posted November 4, 2011 Share Posted November 4, 2011 Do you smoke pot more than she goes to church? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
The High Heat Posted November 4, 2011 Share Posted November 4, 2011 The last guy who sought out relationship advice on here ended up divorcing Via Chicago. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Winston Legthigh Posted November 4, 2011 Share Posted November 4, 2011 She probably doesn't want to be married to a high-ass, and you probably don't want to be married to a church-ass. OR... You could stay together and become a cliched odd couple sitcom: Churchy La Femme & Mr. Dank. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Heartbreak Posted November 4, 2011 Share Posted November 4, 2011 In all seriousness, I just got divorced, and my suggestion would be to go through mediation. A mediation attorney is a neutral party who can still give each of you some advice on how to do things amicably. If things turn nasty, and the discussions break down, both parties have the option of going out and getting individual attorneys and bringing them back to the table. My wife and I did it that way, and it went very smoothly. It helped that we didn't have major assets to contest and didn't disagree on anything, but the mediation attorney also helped in preparing all the paperwork properly, so it was worth spending that money to make sure we do everything correctly. As of now, the papers have already been filed, so I am essentially single now and looking forward to moving on. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ghost of Electricity Posted November 4, 2011 Share Posted November 4, 2011 my suggestion would be send her to church so you can break out the bong and crank the tunes. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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