j4lackey Posted August 29, 2006 Share Posted August 29, 2006 Women don't like it when you do stuff that they don't like. Getting trashed and blowing good money at the black jack table doesn't really indicate that you'll be a good provider and a responsible partner, does it?BullsEye! I would stick to SF and Big Sur, leave Vegas to the other losers. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
viatroy Posted August 29, 2006 Share Posted August 29, 2006 you have 69 total posts. I think fate has given you an answer to your problems. bingo!! Bjorn is wise, and j4 is wiser! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
jonbama Posted August 29, 2006 Share Posted August 29, 2006 i'd say take a gamble on the relationship Quote Link to post Share on other sites
alison the wilca Posted August 29, 2006 Share Posted August 29, 2006 hmm, how about the next time you have a thousand bucks to blow mail it to me and i will invest it in my own personal mutual fund. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
fickerson Posted August 29, 2006 Share Posted August 29, 2006 sounds like you're trying to find a way to make your girlfriend the cause of your guilt, when really it was your own stupidity. you need to realize this and get over it, or things will be weird every time you do something stupid in the future. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Dude Posted August 29, 2006 Share Posted August 29, 2006 Know when to hit and when to stand, my friend. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Kinsley Posted August 30, 2006 Share Posted August 30, 2006 I say try to remind her of all the fun you had in SF, and how you've really learned your lesson on the gambiling and drinking. (Just drinking's OK, though!) The SF part of your trip sounded fantastic. I love that area and can't wait to go back. Any pics? (No Jude, not THOSE kind of pics! ) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
embiggen Posted August 30, 2006 Share Posted August 30, 2006 I can see my help is not needed here. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
oceanman Posted August 30, 2006 Share Posted August 30, 2006 (edited) It really comes down to two things. 1.Can you fart in front of her? 2.Can she fart in front of you? If the answer for 1. is yes,were on a good start,if answer is no,whoose problem is this. If the answer for 2. is yes,and you can laugh at it without puking,that's the one,if answer to 2. is a no..........................my friend you are fucked in the worst way. Sorry for the brutal reality of love! Edited August 30, 2006 by oceanman Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Duck-Billed Catechist Posted August 30, 2006 Share Posted August 30, 2006 sounds like you're trying to find a way to make your girlfriend the cause of your guilt, when really it was your own stupidity. you need to realize this and get over it, or things will be weird every time you do something stupid in the future.Yeah, I was trying to say something like that. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mountain bed Posted August 30, 2006 Share Posted August 30, 2006 Bjorn is wise, and j4 is wiser!Hell yes,Bjorn is wise...he's friggin' Rasputin!!! j4,as well Sorry,I never understood gambling with money,only my sanity Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Dude Posted August 30, 2006 Share Posted August 30, 2006 If the answer for 2. is yes,and you can laugh at it without puking,that's the one,if answer to 2. is a no..........................my friend you are fucked in the worst way.Yeah, I was trying to say something like that. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
darkstar Posted August 30, 2006 Share Posted August 30, 2006 so what should i do?? Find a woman that won't get all put out when you go on a binge, or deal with the fact that if you want this one you can't do fun things like booze it up, gamble, etc, etc. Seriously, give up that stuff because you know it's gonna cause a rift or decide that your gonna do what you damn well please and it's gonna bring the pain. Sounds like you can't win either way. You give up the things that you like and there will always be resentment towards her because you will be blaming her for taking all your fun away. You keep doing stuff then she's pissed off all the time. It's a loose-loose proposition. Consider you may not be right for each other. Sorry man...not what you want to hear surely...just my opinion. What the fuck do I know about this stuff? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mchchef1 Posted August 30, 2006 Share Posted August 30, 2006 I find sometimes starting the same thread three times helps! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
watch me fall Posted August 30, 2006 Share Posted August 30, 2006 Sounds like you can't win either way. You give up the things that you like and there will always be resentment towards her because you will be blaming her for taking all your fun away. You keep doing stuff then she's pissed off all the time. Yep. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
IATTBYB Posted August 30, 2006 Share Posted August 30, 2006 I can't believe that no one has told you the tried and true solution to your problem: What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ponch1028 Posted August 30, 2006 Share Posted August 30, 2006 Is she treating you differently since it all went down? I'm really curious about this. Has she changed to the point where you could honestly accuse her of trying to make you feel guilty? Or is it all in your head? I don't mean to sound harsh, but my first reaction to your post was thinking how immature you sound. Are you really in love? It doesn't sound like it to me. It sounds like you were in lust and infactuated and in love with the idea of being in love. But based upon what you are feeling and experiencing right now, I am a little skeptical - I mean, how could real and true love be on such shaky ground that one horrible experience undermines it? If you can't deal with the emotional stuff, you're screwed one way or another, because true love and lasting love is full of emotion. I think ultimately you're screwed, and I can't help but think it's nobody's fault but maybe your own. A part of me thinks you can't handle conflict or conflict resolution. Now that the relationship with more grounded in reality and not floating in the clouds, how content are you? If you break up with her, you're going to hate yourself because you let her get away. If you stay with her, chances are you're not going to be able to shake these feelings. Either way, it sounds like the relationship has surpassed your carnal interest. Maybe I'm wrong, and I really don't want to sound judgmental or preachy (although I'm sure I do and people will call me on it). Bottom line, you made an ass of yourself and it could'nt have been at a worst time. What a dream vacation and trip. To have it ruined so carelessly probably undermined some of what she thought about you prior to Vegas. She too is probably dealing with the reality that your relationship has come down from the mountaintop high. Can you two survive and even thrive in the real world of long-term relationships? Obviously, she got drunk too - but it sounds like for the most part you are in the blame for this situation. What'cha gonna do? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
embiggen Posted August 30, 2006 Share Posted August 30, 2006 so many arguments are fueled by alcohol. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sir Stewart Posted August 30, 2006 Share Posted August 30, 2006 Is she treating you differently since it all went down? I'm really curious about this. Has she changed to the point where you could honestly accuse her of trying to make you feel guilty? Or is it all in your head? I don't mean to sound harsh, but my first reaction to your post was thinking how immature you sound. Are you really in love? It doesn't sound like it to me. It sounds like you were in lust and infactuated and in love with the idea of being in love. But based upon what you are feeling and experiencing right now, I am a little skeptical - I mean, how could real and true love be on such shaky ground that one horrible experience undermines it? If you can't deal with the emotional stuff, you're screwed one way or another, because true love and lasting love is full of emotion. I think ultimately you're screwed, and I can't help but think it's nobody's fault but maybe your own. A part of me thinks you can't handle conflict or conflict resolution. Now that the relationship with more grounded in reality and not floating in the clouds, how content are you? If you break up with her, you're going to hate yourself because you let her get away. If you stay with her, chances are you're not going to be able to shake these feelings. Either way, it sounds like the relationship has surpassed your carnal interest. Maybe I'm wrong, and I really don't want to sound judgmental or preachy (although I'm sure I do and people will call me on it). Bottom line, you made an ass of yourself and it could'nt have been at a worst time. What a dream vacation and trip. To have it ruined so carelessly probably undermined some of what she thought about you prior to Vegas. She too is probably dealing with the reality that your relationship has come down from the mountaintop high. Can you two survive and even thrive in the real world of long-term relationships? Obviously, she got drunk too - but it sounds like for the most part you are in the blame for this situation. What'cha gonna do? He answers all this very concisely in another thread. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
watch me fall Posted August 30, 2006 Share Posted August 30, 2006 Dr. Phil? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
embiggen Posted August 30, 2006 Share Posted August 30, 2006 Orca? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Atticus Posted August 30, 2006 Share Posted August 30, 2006 so many arguments are fueled by alcohol. no theeyryee NOT, you pugglflm-0head!!!^( Quote Link to post Share on other sites
myboyblue Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 I'd be more concerned about the $1300 you pissed away. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
bjorn_skurj Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 Money can be replaced more easily than love. DBoon, this woman obviously loves you. Try to be worthy of that. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mountain bed Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 so many arguments are fueled by alcohol.true,and many can be forgotten by more alcohol Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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