uncool2pillow Posted June 22, 2008 Share Posted June 22, 2008 Why? Our Lily will be two in almost exactly one month, has been able to ask for it by name for quite a while, and shows no signs of stopping - I'm just wondering how you came to this conclusion. "The World Health Organization recommends that after an "initial 4-to-6-month period of exclusive breast-feeding, children should continue to be breast-fed for up to 2 years of age or beyond." I didn't know the WHO's stance on this. My wife was unable to nurse because we have twins and, being born about 4 weeks early, and probably a host of other reasons (lack of rest, lack of time to pump) her milk never came in great quantities. I am very open to nursing in public. It never really makes me uncomfortable w/ infants. But when we had some friends over, her daughter, whose age I don't remember but she was at least 2 maybe approaching 3, would push up her mom's bra and demand food. In retrospect, maybe my problem was more with discipline than with breastfeeding. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Tweedling Posted June 22, 2008 Share Posted June 22, 2008 ........ I am very open to nursing in public. ........ ME TOO! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
stooka Posted June 22, 2008 Share Posted June 22, 2008 "The World Health Organization recommends that after an "initial 4-to-6-month period of exclusive breast-feeding, children should continue to be breast-fed for up to 2 years of age or beyond." I'm beyond 2 .........I also love the WHO. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Good Old Neon Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 I didn't know the WHO's stance on this. My wife was unable to nurse because we have twins and, being born about 4 weeks early, and probably a host of other reasons (lack of rest, lack of time to pump) her milk never came in great quantities. I am very open to nursing in public. It never really makes me uncomfortable w/ infants. But when we had some friends over, her daughter, whose age I don't remember but she was at least 2 maybe approaching 3, would push up her mom's bra and demand food. In retrospect, maybe my problem was more with discipline than with breastfeeding. That Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ZenLunatic Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 Breast milk is good for coffee. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
quarter23cd Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 We now have 4 little ones, ages 5, 3, 1, and 2 months. Life is insane on a daily basis, but I couldn't ask for anything better out of life. Much of our high-minded philosophizing and planning on how we would raise our children has largely been abandoned in favor of a make-it-up-as-you-go along approach, which pretty much suits the way I do everything in my life anyway. That's not entirely true, of course, we have a core set of principles we operate by, but the more kids we have, the more flexible the whole system has to become. It helps having a wife who has a master's degree in child development as she probably keeps me from screwing them up TOO badly. Although she will be the first to admit that all of her academic learning on the subject goes out the window as soon as she is dealing with her own kids as opposed to somebody else's. When it comes to parenting, everybody makes mistakes (daily), and more important than anything is maintaining a close enough relationship with your kids (and enough perspective on the situation) to realize when you are screwing up too bad. Best rule I can come up with right now: When arguing with your kids about something, use the "BECAUSE I SAID SO!" reason sparingly. While it may be the ultimate parental trump card, deep down I know I'm just being lazy. It'll do in a pinch, though. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
alison the wilca Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 I don't have children and don't plan to, but I think it is really important to really teach kids (and even moreso, teens) about money. Not just the basics, but about all they will need to know to really be successful. Too many people learn about how to handle your money the hard way. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
uncool2pillow Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 This is the best parenting book that I've read. One of the authors of that also havs one on teaching that guides much of my classroom management style. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
bleedorange Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 I don't have children and don't plan to, but I think it is really important to really teach kids (and even moreso, teens) about money. Not just the basics, but about all they will need to know to really be successful. Too many people learn about how to handle your money the hard way. Definitely. It never ceases to amaze me how a lot of highly intelligent people can't grasp the ideas of credit, budget, or "24 months, no interest, no payments," etc. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Dreamin' Posted June 24, 2008 Share Posted June 24, 2008 I'm a newbie parent (my daughter is 21 months old), but my background in psychology and counselling has taught me the importance of attachment and emotional literacy. Lately, I've been trying to teach my daughter to name her feelings (e.g., "You feel mad because the dog ate your cookie.") and this seems to calm her down when she's on the verge of a tantrum. I also encourage her to pick her stuffed animals up when they fall on the floor and ask if they're okay. (I know this may seem silly, but it's a start.) When she's older, I'll try to expose her to those who are less fortunate by becoming involved in community work as a family. I think it's also important to allow kids to feel unhappy at tmes and teach them how to cope with painful emotions in healthy ways. Two good books I've discovered recently Roots of Empathy: Changing the World Child by Child Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Jules Posted June 24, 2008 Share Posted June 24, 2008 My daughter (2 years and change) seems to like me, although I'm pretty sure she's already smarter than me. That's all I got. Just love them. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
yermom Posted June 24, 2008 Share Posted June 24, 2008 Just love them.And make sure they know you do! It took 20+ years for me to realize my dad actually loves me. He's not the type to say it or show it with hugs and such. I smother my kid with affection to be damn sure she knows that I think she's the bee's mo-fo'ing knees. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
uncool2pillow Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 My 3 1/2 year old son had some bad nightmares last night and ended up in bed w/ my wife and me from 2:30 AM until wake up. Tonight we sprayed some "monster away" around his bed, left his door cracked, and gave him lots of light in his room but he's still quite agitated. Any advice? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Wilco Worshipper Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 My 3 1/2 year old son had some bad nightmares last night and ended up in bed w/ my wife and me from 2:30 AM until wake up. Tonight we sprayed some "monster away" around his bed, left his door cracked, and gave him lots of light in his room but he's still quite agitated. Any advice?Take turns staying with him until he falls sleep. After things seem okay start shortening the time you stay so you don't start a bad habit. BOTH of my girls STILL sleep in my room...*sigh* it's only 4 nights a week and I go to bed REALLY late anyway but sometimes I'd like to NOT wake up on the edge of my bed Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Parade Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 Lefty loosy, righty tighty? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
uncool2pillow Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 Take turns staying with him until he falls sleep. After things seem okay start shortening the time you stay so you don't start a bad habit. BOTH of my girls STILL sleep in my room...*sigh* it's only 4 nights a week and I go to bed REALLY late anyway but sometimes I'd like to NOT wake up on the edge of my bed That's exactly what we did tonight. We'll see what happens if and when he wakes up in the middle of the night. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
austrya Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 Why? Our Lily will be two in almost exactly one month, has been able to ask for it by name for quite a while, and shows no signs of stopping - I'm just wondering how you came to this conclusion. "The World Health Organization recommends that after an "initial 4-to-6-month period of exclusive breast-feeding, children should continue to be breast-fed for up to 2 years of age or beyond." I agree. Also, it's not such a bad thing to co-sleep. Oh, and the last thing is to just let them be kids. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ih8music Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 I agree. Also, it's not such a bad thing to co-sleep. Oh, and the last thing is to just let them be kids.my kids (3 & 5) are allowed to come into our bed with us for a couple of hrs in the morning if they want to... but we have a strict rule that it must be after mommy & daddy are too sleepy to put up a fight about it. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
LouieB Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 As the parent of more or less grown children, parently doesn't stop when they turn 18, because children never stop making stupid ass decisions.... LouieB Quote Link to post Share on other sites
tongue-tied lightning Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 letting my 4 yr old have the bag of gummies, and not stressing about it Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mountain bed Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 As the parent of more or less grown children, parently doesn't stop when they turn 18, because children never stop making stupid ass decisions.... LouieBThanks for the heads up on that. I think I'll go lay down in the road now and wait for a semi to run over me. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
LouieB Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 Thanks for the heads up on that. I think I'll go lay down in the road now and wait for a semi to run over me.Hey man I KNOW you are close to having grown kids anyway... tell me about it..... LouieB Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mountain bed Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 23, 21 and 18. Goal #1 - get em out of the house. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
theashtraysays Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 So, at what age do they actually get their heads out of their butts? Mine are almost 17, 15, and 13, and there are no signs of this happening anytime soon... good kids, but my goodness they're clue-free. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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